In today's fast-paced world, it’s easy to feel lost and overwhelmed. Many of us wander through life wondering, "Who am I?" This critical question often fades beneath the noise of societal expectations. People strive to meet certain standards dictated by family, culture, or peers, overshadowing their quest for true self-discovery. While this journey is personal and can be challenging, the rewards—such as improved mental health and a sense of belonging—are incredibly valuable.
As we navigate life, we often wear masks to fit in. Whether it is living up to family expectations or masking our uniqueness to feel accepted among peers, revealing our true selves can be daunting. This blog post is my journey of embracing my own identity and embarking on a meaningful journey of self-discovery and authenticity.
Identity: Who am I?
Growing up, I constantly questioned, "Who am I?" Am I defined by my Asian roots? My LGBTQIA+ identity? The roles and expectations society or my family placed upon me? From an early age, I was forced to grow up quickly, and life didn’t wait for me to catch my breath. At 12 years old, my parents' divorce shattered the stability I had known, and I found myself navigating adulthood long before I was ready. Emotional neglect, toxic codependency, and an overwhelming fear of abandonment defined much of my adolescence, leaving me battling with depression, isolation, and a deep-seated feeling of never being good enough.
I spent years trying to find my identity, unsure of where I fit in this world. I struggled to connect with others, feeling like the black sheep—constantly moving homes, surrounded by unreliable people, betrayed by friends, and feeling detached from my emotions. The world felt lonely, and the more I tried to please others, the more I lost myself.
Through these challenges, however, I discovered something powerful: the importance of owning my identity. I didn’t need to fit into anyone’s mold or expectations. My multicultural and multilingual background, my LGBTQIA+ identity, and all the struggles that shaped me were not weaknesses but sources of strength. Learning to embrace every aspect of myself, including the parts that felt "too different" or "too much," became my ultimate act of courage.
Self-discovery: What is My Purpose?
My purpose became clear when I realized the immense power that comes from facing fears head-on and living in alignment with your true self. I specialize in empowering Asian LGBTQIA+ individuals who, like me, have felt overwhelmed, anxious, or unsure of how to communicate their identity. It’s my mission to help people who have been sidelined, shamed, or made to feel invisible find their voice and live boldly.
Using the 10X Rule by Grant Cardone as a guide, I approach life with intensity and determination. The 10X Rule teaches that to achieve extraordinary success, you must put forth extraordinary effort—and that’s the mindset I bring to my coaching. I help my clients 10X their confidence, 10X their authenticity, and ultimately, 10X their life.
Together, we work on confronting the internal and external obstacles that hold you back: homophobia, cultural expectations, isolation, and fears of failure or success. My purpose is to guide you in stepping out of survival mode and into thriving mode, where you are the boss of your life, unapologetically creating your future and living your truth.
Authenticity: What is the Dream Life I Want to Live?
The dream life I envision for myself—and for every client I coach—is one where we are all fully empowered to design our futures without compromise. My dream life is expansive, free, and abundant. I want to live in a world where I am surrounded by high-vibrational people, traveling the world, eating delicious vegan food, speaking multiple languages, and connecting with others who share my passion for holistic wellness and personal empowerment.
But the dream doesn’t stop with material success. The true dream is to create a safe, inclusive community where Asian LGBTQIA+ individuals can come together, be seen, be heard, and be celebrated. My dream is to build a business empire that supports not only my financial freedom but also the empowerment of others. I dream of living in harmony with my authentic self—no longer fearing success, failure, or visibility—and helping others do the same.
The 10X Approach to Life and Success
Incorporating the 10X Rules by Grant Cardone into my journey has been transformative. The idea that success requires taking massive action was exactly what I needed to overcome years of feeling stuck and inadequate. I now approach every goal, every dream, with 10X intensity. If something scares me, I go after it harder. If I feel resistance, I push even further.
The Rules of Success by Cardone have also taught me that success isn’t just about hard work—it’s about mindset. Growing up, I had deeply ingrained beliefs that money was "bad," that I wasn’t worthy of abundance, and that failure was to be feared. Shifting to a success mindset has been key to unlocking the life I now live. I embrace abundance, I celebrate my wins, and I show up every day ready to go all in.
I know that many of my clients come from similar backgrounds—feeling like they don’t belong, afraid to be seen, and burdened with limiting beliefs about success. But through my coaching, we rewrite those stories. Together, we replace fear with power, lack with abundance, and uncertainty with fierce clarity.
What’s Next?
If you’re reading this and parts of my story resonate with you, know that you’re not alone. Your identity is your superpower, and embracing it fully is the key to unlocking your dream life. You have the potential to 10X your confidence, manifest your dream life, and live in alignment with your true self. It’s time to stop playing small and start showing up as the bold, empowered version of yourself that you’ve always been deep down.
Let’s work together to DEEsign your dream life. I specialize in guiding Asian LGBTQIA+ individuals to face their fears, reclaim their identities, and step into their power. We will confront the challenges of homophobia, isolation, cultural expectations, and any self-doubt that has been holding you back.
The life you’ve always dreamed of is within reach. Are you ready to 10X your life? Let’s make it happen. Book a Deesign Your Life call with me today, and together we’ll create the life you deserve, one Deetail at a time.
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